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Conversation about friends

BestWebIt English course

Topic objectives

  1. Common consideration.
  2. Revise grammar rules
  3. Vocabulary
  4. Reading
  5. Question list
PROVERB
Friend in need is friend indeed

1. Common consideration.

This lesson's is dedicated consideration for all about our friends.

Friend is a person who you like and enjoy being with

Friend is a person who helps or supports someone or something (such as a cause or charity)

- So the first question is, of course:

  1. Do you have a friend(s)? And is he real dude that always come help you with your beer :) ?
  2. friend minion
  3. How can you discribe you friend? What traits is he have? Positive, negative...
    Open-minded,
    Hardworking
    Ussually Honest,
    Friendly,
    A little bit "crazy",
    Responsible,
    Optimistic,
    Humorous,
    Calm,
    Always Polite,
    Simple,
    Logical,
    Outspoken, dedicated, ambitious, determined, independent, highly motivated, understanding, etc.
    Your own choice...
    maybe, some negative traits? or "- My friend always good person" :) ...
    sometimes Aggressive
    sometimes Wicked
    sometimes Dishonest
    sometimes Exacting
    sometimes Pessimistic
  4. friend fingers
  5. Can you say that you have many friends? How often do you visit your friends?
  6. Who is your best friend? Yourself, real friend, Mary's hyperactive dog,...
  7. How long have you been friend?
  8. How you spend your time with your friend? Night club, travelling, cafe, picnic (barbecue), Entertainment Center,...
  9. What do you usually ask your friend when you meet by chance?

Acquaintances and friends

People often distinguish between an acquaintance and a friend, holding that the former should be used primarily to refer to someone with whom one is not especially close. Many of the earliest uses of acquaintance were in fact in reference to a person with whom one was very close, but the word is now generally reserved for those who are known only slightly.

Acquaintance is often found paired with nodding. Although nodding acquaintance sounds like it describes a person who is known just enough to nod at, it tends to be used instead to refer to a thing or field with which one has a small amount of knowledge or familiarity (and this is the meaning that the phrase has had since its introduction to the language in the early 19th century).

2. Grammar

Simple Present Tense

The simple present tense in English is used to describe an action that is regular, true or normal.

We use the present tense:

For repeated or regular actions in the present time period. Use the Simple Present to express the idea that an action is repeated or usual. The action can be a habit, a hobby, a daily event, a scheduled event or something that often happens. It can also be something a person often forgets or usually does not do.

present simple

For facts. The Simple Present can also indicate the speaker believes that a fact was true before, is true now, and will be true in the future. It is not important if the speaker is correct about the fact. It is also used to make generalizations about people or things.

present simple

Scheduled Events in the Near Future. Speakers occasionally use Simple Present to talk about scheduled events in the near future. This is most commonly done when talking about public transportation, but it can be used with other scheduled events as well.

present simple

Verb Conjugation & Spelling

We form the present tense using the base form of the infinitive (without the TO).

In general, in the third person we add 'S' in the third person.

Subject Verb The Rest of the sentence
I / you / we / they speak / learn English at home
he / she / it speaks / learns English at home

The spelling for the verb in the third person differs depending on the ending of that verb:

1. For verbs that end in -O, -CH, -SH, -SS, -X, or -Z we add -ES in the third person.

2. For verbs that end in a consonant + Y, we remove the Y and add -IES.

NOTE: For verbs that end in a vowel + Y, we just add -S.


Negative Sentences in the Simple Present Tense

To make a negative sentence in English we normally use Don't or Doesn't with all verbs EXCEPT To Be and Modal verbs (can, might, should etc.).

You will see that we add don't between the subject and the verb. We use Don't when the subject is I, you, we or they.

When the subject is he, she or it, we add doesn't between the subject and the verb to make a negative sentence. Notice that the letter S at the end of the verb in the affirmative sentence (because it is in third person) disappears in the negative sentence. We will see the reason why below.


Negative Contractions

Don't = Do not
Doesn't = Does not

I don't like meat = I do not like meat.

There is no difference in meaning though we normally use contractions in spoken English.


Word Order of Negative Sentences

The following is the word order to construct a basic negative sentence in English in the Present Tense using Don't or Doesn't.

Subject don't/doesn't Verb* The Rest of the sentence
I / you / we / they don't have / buy
eat / like etc.
cereal for breakfast
he / she / it doesn't

* Verb: The verb that goes here is the base form of the infinitive = The infinitive without TO before the verb. Instead of the infinitive To have it is just the have part.

Remember that the infinitive is the verb before it is conjugated (changed) and it begins with TO. For example: to have, to eat, to go, to live, to speak etc.

Examples of Negative Sentences with Don't and Doesn't:



Questions in the Simple Present Tense

To make a question in English we normally use Do or Does. It is normally put at the beginning of the question.

You will see that we add DO at the beginning of the affirmative sentence to make it a question. We use Do when the subject is I, you, we or they.

When the subject is he, she or it, we add DOES at the beginning to make the affirmative sentence a question. Notice that the letter S at the end of the verb in the affirmative sentence (because it is in third person) disappears in the question. We will see the reason why below.

We DON''T use Do or Does in questions that have the verb To Be or Modal Verbs (can, must, might, should etc.)


Word Order of Questions with Do and Does

The following is the word order to construct a basic question in English using Do or Does.

Do/Does Subject Verb* The Rest of the sentence
Do I / you / we / they have / need
want etc.
a new bike?
Does he / she / it

*Verb: The verb that goes here is the base form of the infinitive = The infinitive without TO before the verb. Instead of the infinitive To have it is just the have part.

Remember that the infinitive is the verb before it is conjugated (changed) and it begins with TO. For example: to have, to eat, to go, to live, to speak etc.

Examples of Questions with Do and Does:


Short Answers with Do and Does

In questions that use do/does it is possible to give short answers to direct questions as follows:

Sample Questions Short Answer
(Affirmative)
Short Answer
(Negative)
Do you like chocolate? Yes, I do. No, I don't.
Do I need a pencil? Yes, you do. No, you don't.
Do you both like chocolate? Yes, we do. No, we don't.
Do they like chocolate? Yes, they do. No, they don't.
Does he like chocolate? Yes, he does. No, he doesn't.
Does she like chocolate? Yes, she does. No, she doesn't.
Does it have four wheels? Yes, it does. No, it doesn't.

However, if a question word such as who, when, where, why, which or how is used in the question, you can not use the short answers above to respond to the question.

3. Vocabulary

What does next word mean? Explain it and make up sentences.

  1. associate
  2. Noun

    a partner or colleague in business or at work.

    "he arranged for a close associate to take control of the institute "

    Synonym: partner, colleague, coworker, workmate, comrade, ally, affiliate, confederate, connection, contact, acquaintance, collaborator,

    Verb

    connect (someone or something) with something else in one's mind.

    "I associated wealth with freedom "

    Synonym: link, connect, relate, identify, equate, bracket, set side by side

    Adjective

    joined or connected with an organization or business.

    "an associate company "

  3. restrict
  4. Verb

    put a limit on; keep under control.

    "It'll help her gain confidence - a quality she'll need to make her own friends."

    Synonym: limit, keep within bounds, regulate, control, moderate, cut down

  5. confidence
  6. Noun

    the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust.

    "some roads may have to be closed at peak times to restrict the number of visitors"

    Synonym: trust, belief, faith, credence, conviction

  7. Propose
  8. Verb

    put forward (an idea or plan) for consideration or discussion by others.

    Example: " he proposed a new nine-point peace plan "

    Synonym: put forward, suggest, submit, advance, offer, present, move, come up with, lodge, table, nominate

  9. challenge
  10. Noun

    a call to take part in a contest or competition, especially a duel.

    Example: " he accepted the challenge "

    Synonym: dare, provocation, summons

    Verb

    invite (someone) to engage in a contest.

    Example: " he challenged one of my men to a duel "

    Synonym: disagree with, dispute, take issue with, protest against

  11. Exacting
  12. Adjective

    making great demands on one's skill, attention, or other resources.

    Example: " living up to such exacting standards "

    Synonym: demanding, stringent, testing, challenging, onerous, arduous, laborious, taxing, grueling, punishing, hard, tough

    Verb

    demand and obtain (something, especially a payment) from someone.

    Example: " Our role is to produce the finest car, to the most exacting standards, in the world motor industry. "

    Synonym: demand, require, insist on, request, impose, expect, extract, compel, force, squeeze

  13. performance
  14. Noun

    An act of staging or presenting a play, concert, or other form of entertainment.

    Example: "Don Giovanni had its first performance in 1787"

    Synonym: show, production, showing, presentation, staging, concert, recital, gig

    The action or process of carrying out or accomplishing an action, task, or function.

    Example: "the continual performance of a single task reduces a man to the level of a machine "

    Synonym: carrying out, execution, discharge, accomplishment, completion, fulfillment

  15. frustrate
  16. Verb

    prevent (a plan or attempted action) from progressing, succeeding, or being fulfilled.

    Example: " When you see these polls that show your popularity down a bit, it doesn't frustrate you? "

    Example: " It illustrates how the little man can, in the end, outwit and frustrate the grandiose plans of the great. "

    Synonym: thwart, exasperate, cross, torment

Watch another words: English Vocabulary...



4. Reading

Fifteen Reasons We Need Friends

Most of the research on friendship concerns children and adolescents, and only rarely do researchers seriously address friendships over the latter (and majority) of the lifespan. Fortunately, author Carlin Flora’s new book, Friendfluence, addresses this much-needed gap. She pulls together the available and wide-ranging academic literature on friendship with personal insights and interviews, exploring all aspects of friendship in a thoughtful and engaging way. If you ever had any doubts that friends are one of the most important, if least understood, aspects of life, Flora will convince you. When it comes to happiness, your friends are the key.

  1. Friendfluence affects you in more ways than you realize. Flora made up the word "friendfluence" to capture the effect that friends have on our lives: “Friendfluence is the powerful and often unappreciated role that friends—past and present—play in determining our sense of self and the direction of our lives”. Whether you realize it or not, your friends have shaped who you are today. You are even the product of the friends who are no longer your friends.
  2. Friends can give you vital life skills. Friendfluence gives you vital life skills; “the very abilities one generally needs to be successful in life”. There are many perks of friendship include sharpening your mind, making you generally happier, knowing yourself better, becoming inspired to reach your goals, advancing your career, helping you meet romantic partners, and living a longer and healthier life.
  3. Childhood friendships start your learning process. Early friendships play a vital role because they occur while key developmental changes are taking place. They help teach us some of those important life skills but also shape our life “narrative.” Flora advocates for parents and teachers to give kids unstructured time to work out their own social relationships rather than to over-program them into restrictive activities.
  4. Teen friendships shape your later romantic bonds. Though parents spend much of their time worrying about who their teenage kids are with, these relationships are a training ground for the later long-term bonds that will evolve through adulthood. Flora advises parents to recognize that peers will “trump” them every time, and so instead of fighting with your kids about spending too much time with their friends, or who their friends are, you can help your children more by inviting their friends over to your home.
  5. Friends can help you define your priorities. People tend to pick friends who are similar to them. This fact falls under the general proximity rule of close relationships, in that like tends to attract like. Because we fall prey so easily into this similarity trap, it is important to try to stretch yourself to learn from some of those opposites. Flora points out the many ways in which “Birds, feather, flock.” Knowing this can help you grow by expanding your range of friends and trying out some new points of view.
  6. Having friends can help you get more friends. People tend to like others who have a reputation for being nice and helpful, and they like people who like them. If you want to be the type of person who attracts new friends, these qualities will help get you on your way toward building your social group. Once you have more friends, you’ll be able to enjoy some of those perks of friendship.
  7. Close friends support you through thick and thin. To take the most advantage of friendfluence, put effort into your closest friendships. Although being friendly can get you more friends, you don’t need hundreds to help you through life. You may have to prune your friendship tree as you get older to be sure that you give enough attention to the ones who will really matter for your well-being.
  8. Friends can make you miserable too. There is a dark side to friendship. The people who know you the best are also the ones who have the most power to betray you, should the relationship sour. Friends can also get you into trouble. If your friends are doing something bad or harmful, you tend to be more likely to do so as well, a fact to which many drinking buddies can certainly attest. Friends can also cause you stress when they get in the way of other important goals or relationships. Be ready to say no to friends who disappoint, betray, or stress you and you’ll be more likely to get the full friendfluence effect.
  9. You’re less lonely when you have friends. The worst kind of friendfluence, according to Flora, is a complete lack of friends. Loneliness is painful, especially when you are living with loneliness for a prolonged period of time. This is yet another reason to put time, energy, and attention into finding and cultivating a close circle of friends.
  10. Your online friends can steer your thoughts and behaviors. Although online friends are qualitatively different than your in-person friends, they shape you nevertheless. They can also be your source of life support. Flora shows us how Toni Bernhard, author of How to be Sick, and confined to her home, has maintained a lifeline to the outside world through her closest online friends. Of course, your online friends can also make you miserable too, especially if you get caught in the “friendship paradox” have fewer friends than the average number). If you can avoid having Facebook envy dominate your life, you’ll have more rewarding connections with your extended friendship community.
  11. Friends matter to you, regardless of gender. Although much is made of the difference between male friends, female friends, and male-female friend pairs, all share the qualities of having the potential to influence your life. If you restrict yourself to one certain type of friendship, you may be missing out on bonds that transcend gender boundaries.
  12. Couple friendships can help your own relationship. People experiencing similar life events can often provide the most valuable support to each other. Unfortunately, some couples withdraw from their friendships when their relationship turns serious. You can benefit both from maintaining your separate friendships, but also from sharing with the couples who are experiencing transitions such as becoming parents, raising teenagers, and helping older family members. Friends can also help you alleviate your work-related stress. Even though you may be stretched to the limit time-wise, the investment you make in these friendships will be worth the psychological benefits.
  13. Friends can give you a reality check. Who but your closest friends will tell you that your new outfit is ridiculously garish? What person you meet on the street will let you know that your latest romantic interest is going to bring you heartbreak? Because friends know us so well, they are able to see things that we can’t, and aren’t afraid to share their dose of reality with you. Of course, as we saw earlier, friends can also make you miserable. However, the ones who care about you have a perspective on your behavior that no one else can completely see. As Flora points out: “friends are better at describing our behavioral traits than we are”. Incidentally, this is one reason why personality researchers ask for “other” reports to compare to the self-ratings that participants themselves provide. These “other” reports can come closer to the mark, especially for individuals whose personalities ironically make it hard for them to see themselves in a realistic light.
  14. Banding together with friends can help you effect social change. It’s difficult, if not impossible, to fight for a cause, raise money for charity, or even just make a few small improvements in your community on your own. Friends are the first step, Flora points out, to building successful social movements. Facebook provides one way to enlist the support of thousands of people. At a less grandiose level, people are more likely to engage in helping and altruistic behavior at the urging of their close friends.
  15. Being a friend helps your friends. Friendfluence works in two directions. Not only do you benefit from its many perks, but by being a good friend you are helping those closest to you. “Being a friend is a great honor and responsibility, so treat your friends carefully”. If you are aware of how you’re affecting your friends, you’ll work harder to stay close to them which, in turn, will benefit you as well. Being a good friend also includes asking them for help when you need it. Giving someone the gift of being influential can be one of the greatest joys you pass on to your friends.

The upshot is, you need friends and they need you. It doesn’t take much skill to cultivate this close and fascinating type of human bond, but it does take some effort. As Flora shows us, that effort will clearly pay off in helping you lead a more fulfilling life.




Conversation between 2 old friends meeting by chance at a cafe


Sarah: Hello Jason, how are you, it's been a long time since we last met?
Jason: Oh, hi Sarah I'm have got a new job now and is going great. How about you?
Sarah: Not too bad.
Jason: How often do you eat at this cafe?
Sarah: This is my first time my friends kept telling me the food was great, so tonight I decided to try it. What have you been up to?
Jason: I have been so busy with my new job that I have not had the time to do much else, but otherwise, me and the family are all fine.
Sarah: Well, I hope you and your family have a lovely meal.
Jason: Yes you too.

Conversation about two people asking each other what they do for a living.


David: Hello, my name is David It's nice to meet you.
Jenny: Hi, I'm Jenny. It's my please to meet you.
David: Am sorry. what was your name again?
Jenny: Jenny.
David: So Jenny, What do you do for a living?
Jenny: I work at the local school teaching English. what do you for a living?
David: I'm also an English teacher, but am currently out of work.
Jenny: Sorry to hear that. It has been really nice talking to you.
David: Yes. It was a great pleasure meeting you.

Conversation about two friends meeting by chance at the movies.


Bob: Hi Jason, it's great to see you again.
Jason: Wow, it's great seeing you, How long has it been? It most be more than 6 months. I'm doing good. How about you?
Bob: Not too bad.
Jason: What movie are you and the family going to see?
Bob: I came here to see the Simpsons movie. How about you?
Jason: I'm going to watch Terminator 4.




Other

What can I say when I don’t understand what is being said?

- Can you speak more slowly, please I don’t understand?

- Pardon?

- Sorry, what was that you just said?

- Am sorry would you mind repeating that, please?

- I’m sorry; I don’t fully understand what you have just said, what do you mean.


Questions using the word 'Like'


- What do you like?
- I like playing cricket, reading and listening to pop music.
- What does she look like?
- she's tall and slim with blond hair.
- What would you like to eat?
- I'd like a steak and chips and a salad.
- What is it like?
- It's an interesting country many things to see and do.
- What's the weather like?
- It''s snowing really heavy at the moment.
- Would you like some coffee / tea / food?
- Yes, thank you. I'd like some tea.
- Would you like something to drink / eat?
- Thank you. Could I have a cup of coffee and some cake?

Asking for an Opinion


- What's it about?
- It's about a young girl who has many adventures.
- What do you think about your job / that book etc.?
- I thought the book was very interesting.
- How big / far / difficult / easy is it?
- The test was very difficult, but I think I did OK!
- How big / far / difficult / easy are they?
- The questions were very easy.
- How was it?
- It was very interesting.
- What are you going to do tomorrow / this evening / next week / etc.?
- I'm going to visit my family next weekend.

Suggestions


- What shall we do this today/ this morning / afternoon / evening? - Let's go see a movie.
- Why don't we go out / play football / visit some old friends / etc. this afternoon?
- Yes, that sounds like a great idea.



Сonclusion

It was conversation classes about friends.

If you have any question, proposition or etc. you can leave comments on my Feedback.

Good luck!

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