"Your personality style is your organizing principle. It propels you on your life path. It represents the orderly arrangement of all your attributes, thoughts, feelings, attitudes, behaviors, and coping mechanisms. It is the distinctive pattern of your psychological functioning—the way you think, feel, and behave—that makes you definitely you." — The New Personality Self-Portrait by Oldham and Morris.
Just for instance, You want to work for a certain company.
I quess, one of the chief want to know more about you.
- So, what can you say about yourself? What can you say about your personality traits? You are hard working person, perseverant, responsible and just irreplaceable nice guy :)
Let's consider about human's personality.
In some ways we are all the same. We all have the same human nature. We share a common humanity. We all have human bodies and human minds, we all have human thoughts and human feelings.
Yet in other ways we are all completely different and unique. No two people are truly alike. No two people can ever have the same experience of life, the same perspective, the same mind.
Personality is about our different ways of being human. How we are all variations on the same themes. How the human nature we all share manifests in different styles of thinking, feeling and acting.
Personality can be defined in different ways, depending on whether we focus on the individual or on people in general.
If we focus on people in general, then we can define personality in terms of individual differences — that is, the range of different styles of thinking, feeling and acting.
Just as human beings can differ a great deal in terms of their physical traits (height, weight, hair, and so on), they also differ in terms of mental and behavioural traits. For example, some people are noticeably talkative and outgoing while others are noticeably quiet and reserved. Such differences and variations are seen everywhere throughout the human population.
If we focus on the personality of a specific individual, we can define it as that person's particular set of tendencies to think, feel and act in particular ways.
Someone who has tended to be quiet and reserved up to now will probably still tend to be quiet and reserved tomorrow. That doesn’t necessarily mean that they are compelled to be quiet and reserved at all times, in every possible situation. Rather, they are disposed to be be quiet and reserved more often than not.
In ancient times it was thought that all people could be divided into four basic types — sanguine, choleric, melancholic and phlegmatic.
This idea was briefly revived in Renaissance Europe and there are some modern versions of it around today.
Despite the simple appeal of this approach, trying to fit all the world's people with their amazing range of differences into so few boxes is not easy.
For example, ‘sanguine’ people are supposedly extroverted, creative, sensitive, compassionate, thoughtful, tardy, forgetful and sarcastic. But in fact there is no evidence that these characteristics go together at all. You can certainly be creative without being extroverted. You can certainly be compassionate without being sarcastic. So what does being ‘the sanguine type’ really mean, if anything?
Dividing people up into a few types may be a nice and simple way of looking at the world, but in reality it doesn’t get us very far.
An alternative approach used by modern psychologists is to simply focus on the words we use to describe each other's personalities. The idea that such words can tell us about personality, or at least how we conceive personality, is known as the lexical hypothesis.
When we try to describe someone in words — whether it's their physical appearance or their personality — we focus on describing their most distinctive features. This is because we tend to notice and remember outstanding characteristics.
For instance, we might describe some people as tall and some as short, though there is no word in the dictionary to describe people of average height. Likewise, the words we use to describe personality focus on how individuals stand out as above or below average in their mental and behavioural characteristics.
Now, if we take all the personality-describing words in a dictionary (thousands of them!) and then analyse how much people think they differ or overlap in terms of meaning, we find that they can be organised into a certain number of sets or ‘clusters’.
So if we cluster together all words that have a b-r-o-a-d-l-y similar meaning, how many clusters do we get?
Scientists are always looking for ways to reduce complex things to the most simple account possible. And doing exactly this kind of analysis, what psychologists have found again and again is that personality words can be reduced to just five clusters.
In other words, there are five big sets of words (including their opposites) which contain pretty much all of the words we might use to describe personality. This is one of the most robust findings to come out of decades of research into human personality.
These five sets are commonly known as the Big Five:
So in contrast to the ‘types’ approach, many psychologists now understand personality as how we all vary on these five dimensions or five factors. It’s not that the world is divided into (say) sanguines and cholerics and so on. Rather, we are all variations on the same themes, and these variations define our personality traits. We each have our own scores on the same five scales. An introvert, for example, is simply someone who scores low on the extroversion scale.
Bottom line: It depends upon your perspective on human nature.
If you believe that people are biological machines driven by their genes, their brains, and their environments, then the personality is simply those differences in behaviour that are caused by nature and/or nurture — genetic, biological, and environmental factors.
If you believe that people can consciously change and improve themselves to some extent, then personality is a whole that is greater than just the sum of its parts (traits). Personality is something we can consciously develop, like our physical health and fitness. This includes the possibility of developing character: a set of strengths and virtues (as well as weaknesses and vices) that individuals can adopt and develops throughout life.
If you believe that people are, at the very core of their being, part of a self-evolving cosmic consciousness, exploring and expressing itself through the myriad forms of humanity and other creatures, then personality is an individually-tailored vehicle for such exploration.
empathy — “The ability to understand and share the feelings of another.” — Oxford Dictionaries
Having empathy—whether for colleagues, family, or friends—comes from focusing on someone else's needs, struggles, and feelings. It requires that you open your heart to them and put their needs before your own.
Intuition — “The ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning.” — Oxford Dictionaries
“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.” — Albert Einstein
Intuition often plays a strong role in decision making. You rely on intuition when you must make decisions and take action on them very quickly, the problem or the solution is ambiguous, or there's no precedent to follow.
Creativity — “The use of the imagination or original ideas, especially in the production of an artistic work.” — Oxford Dictionaries
Being creative is allowing your intuition to reveal possibilities to you and following them in the moment. The source of creativity is your imagination.
passion—“An intense desire or enthusiasm for something.” - Oxford Dictionaries
Being an effective professional requires great drive, enthusiasm, and focus. To sustain the level of effort and concentration that the work demands, you must have a passion for your work. With passion, your work ceases to feel like work. Your passion keeps you focused on your goals, enables you to get things done and take risks when necessary, and makes it possible for you to realize your vision. Always strive to do great work! Don’t settle for less. Don’t compromise on quality.
Love your work and you’ll have the motivation to continually hone your skills and expand your areas of competency, as you must forever do in this field. When you work with passion, you can reach your full potential.
Be a Life-long Learner
learning—“The acquisition of knowledge or skills through experience, study, or by being taught.” — Oxford Dictionaries
Other personal qualities like Be a Leader, Be a Good Listener, Be Persuasive, Be Responsible and Kind, Be Honest and Have Integrity, Be Courageous, Be Self-Aware, Be Wholehearted and... Friendly, Disciplined, Adaptable, Enterprising, Humble, Kind, Optimistic, Tactful, Thoughtful, Analytical, Cautious, Erudite, Grateful, Humorous, Logical, Organized, Poised, Simple, Adventurous, Consistent, Dedicated, Faithful, Hardworking, Polite, Sincere, Affable, Passionate, Practical, Tolerant, Calm, Determined, Patient, Joyful, Stable, Professional, Trustworthy, Willing, Focused, Devoted, Open-minded, Honest, Punctual, Wise, Selfless, Capable
List of negative qualities:
Aggressive, Apathetic Arrogant Boastful Boorish Bossy Callous Careless Caustic Complacent Conceited Conniving Controlling Cowardly Curt Cynical Deceitful Dishonest Disrespectful Egocentric Evil Exacting Fearful Finicky Fussy Garrulous Glum Greedy Grumpy Harried Harsh Haughty Hostile Ignorant Immature Impatient Inconsiderate Indecisive Insensitive Interfering Irresponsible Jealous Killjoy Languid Lazy LaxLoner Malicious Materialistic Mean Miserly Moody Naive Narrow-minded Nasty Obnoxious Obstinate Outspoken Pessimistic Petulant Pompous Possessive Quarrelsome Quixotic Rambunctious Rebellious Resentful Rigid Rude Sarcastic Scornful Selfish Spiteful Stingy Stubborn Superficial Taciturn Thoughtless Touchy Uncouth Ungrateful Unreliable Unscrupulous Untidy Vain Vengeful Vulgar Wicked
Situation when you are on interview