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Conversation about personality

February 2016


  1. Acquaintance
  2. Theme text. What is Personality?
  3. Some Personal traits.
  4. Question List.
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"Your personality style is your organizing principle. It propels you on your life path. It represents the orderly arrangement of all your attributes, thoughts, feelings, attitudes, behaviors, and coping mechanisms. It is the distinctive pattern of your psychological functioning—the way you think, feel, and behave—that makes you definitely you." — The New Personality Self-Portrait by Oldham and Morris.

1. Acquaintance

Just for instance, You want to work for a certain company.

I quess, one of the chief want to know more about you.

- So, what can you say about yourself? What can you say about your personality traits? You are hard working person, perseverant, responsible and just irreplaceable nice guy :)

Let's consider about human's personality.

2. Theme text. What is Personality?

Same But Different

In some ways we are all the same. We all have the same human nature. We share a common humanity. We all have human bodies and human minds, we all have human thoughts and human feelings.

Yet in other ways we are all completely different and unique. No two people are truly alike. No two people can ever have the same experience of life, the same perspective, the same mind.

Personality is about our different ways of being human. How we are all variations on the same themes. How the human nature we all share manifests in different styles of thinking, feeling and acting.

Defining Personality

Personality can be defined in different ways, depending on whether we focus on the individual or on people in general.

If we focus on people in general, then we can define personality in terms of individual differences — that is, the range of different styles of thinking, feeling and acting.

Just as human beings can differ a great deal in terms of their physical traits (height, weight, hair, and so on), they also differ in terms of mental and behavioural traits. For example, some people are noticeably talkative and outgoing while others are noticeably quiet and reserved. Such differences and variations are seen everywhere throughout the human population.

If we focus on the personality of a specific individual, we can define it as that person's particular set of tendencies to think, feel and act in particular ways.

Someone who has tended to be quiet and reserved up to now will probably still tend to be quiet and reserved tomorrow. That doesn’t necessarily mean that they are compelled to be quiet and reserved at all times, in every possible situation. Rather, they are disposed to be be quiet and reserved more often than not.

Talking About Personality

about personality

In ancient times it was thought that all people could be divided into four basic types — sanguine, choleric, melancholic and phlegmatic.

This idea was briefly revived in Renaissance Europe and there are some modern versions of it around today.

Despite the simple appeal of this approach, trying to fit all the world's people with their amazing range of differences into so few boxes is not easy.

For example, ‘sanguine’ people are supposedly extroverted, creative, sensitive, compassionate, thoughtful, tardy, forgetful and sarcastic. But in fact there is no evidence that these characteristics go together at all. You can certainly be creative without being extroverted. You can certainly be compassionate without being sarcastic. So what does being ‘the sanguine type’ really mean, if anything?

Dividing people up into a few types may be a nice and simple way of looking at the world, but in reality it doesn’t get us very far.

A Thousand Words?

words describing personality

An alternative approach used by modern psychologists is to simply focus on the words we use to describe each other's personalities. The idea that such words can tell us about personality, or at least how we conceive personality, is known as the lexical hypothesis.

When we try to describe someone in words — whether it's their physical appearance or their personality — we focus on describing their most distinctive features. This is because we tend to notice and remember outstanding characteristics.

For instance, we might describe some people as tall and some as short, though there is no word in the dictionary to describe people of average height. Likewise, the words we use to describe personality focus on how individuals stand out as above or below average in their mental and behavioural characteristics.

Now, if we take all the personality-describing words in a dictionary (thousands of them!) and then analyse how much people think they differ or overlap in terms of meaning, we find that they can be organised into a certain number of sets or ‘clusters’.

So if we cluster together all words that have a b-r-o-a-d-l-y similar meaning, how many clusters do we get?

Scientists are always looking for ways to reduce complex things to the most simple account possible. And doing exactly this kind of analysis, what psychologists have found again and again is that personality words can be reduced to just five clusters.

In other words, there are five big sets of words (including their opposites) which contain pretty much all of the words we might use to describe personality. This is one of the most robust findings to come out of decades of research into human personality.

words describing personality

The Big Five

These five sets are commonly known as the Big Five:

  • EXTROVERSION — the tendency to be outgoing, energetic and sociable
  • OPENNESS — the tendency to enjoy variety, novelty, challenge and intellectual stimulation
  • NEUROTICISM — the tendency to experience unpleasant emotions
  • AGREEABLENESS — the tendency to be friendly, compassionate and cooperative
  • CONSCIENTIOUSNESS — the tendency to show self-discipline and self-control

So in contrast to the ‘types’ approach, many psychologists now understand personality as how we all vary on these five dimensions or five factors. It’s not that the world is divided into (say) sanguines and cholerics and so on. Rather, we are all variations on the same themes, and these variations define our personality traits. We each have our own scores on the same five scales. An introvert, for example, is simply someone who scores low on the extroversion scale.


So … What is Personality?

Bottom line: It depends upon your perspective on human nature.

If you believe that people are biological machines driven by their genes, their brains, and their environments, then the personality is simply those differences in behaviour that are caused by nature and/or nurture — genetic, biological, and environmental factors.

If you believe that people can consciously change and improve themselves to some extent, then personality is a whole that is greater than just the sum of its parts (traits). Personality is something we can consciously develop, like our physical health and fitness. This includes the possibility of developing character: a set of strengths and virtues (as well as weaknesses and vices) that individuals can adopt and develops throughout life.

If you believe that people are, at the very core of their being, part of a self-evolving cosmic consciousness, exploring and expressing itself through the myriad forms of humanity and other creatures, then personality is an individually-tailored vehicle for such exploration.

3. Some Personal traits

Be Empathetic

empathy — “The ability to understand and share the feelings of another.” — Oxford Dictionaries

Having empathy—whether for colleagues, family, or friends—comes from focusing on someone else's needs, struggles, and feelings. It requires that you open your heart to them and put their needs before your own.

Be Intuitive

Intuition — “The ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning.” — Oxford Dictionaries

“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.” — Albert Einstein

Intuition often plays a strong role in decision making. You rely on intuition when you must make decisions and take action on them very quickly, the problem or the solution is ambiguous, or there's no precedent to follow.

Be Creative

Creativity — “The use of the imagination or original ideas, especially in the production of an artistic work.” — Oxford Dictionaries

Being creative is allowing your intuition to reveal possibilities to you and following them in the moment. The source of creativity is your imagination.

Be Passionate

passion—“An intense desire or enthusiasm for something.” - Oxford Dictionaries

Being an effective professional requires great drive, enthusiasm, and focus. To sustain the level of effort and concentration that the work demands, you must have a passion for your work. With passion, your work ceases to feel like work. Your passion keeps you focused on your goals, enables you to get things done and take risks when necessary, and makes it possible for you to realize your vision. Always strive to do great work! Don’t settle for less. Don’t compromise on quality.

Love your work and you’ll have the motivation to continually hone your skills and expand your areas of competency, as you must forever do in this field. When you work with passion, you can reach your full potential.

Be a Life-long Learner

learning—“The acquisition of knowledge or skills through experience, study, or by being taught.” — Oxford Dictionaries

Other personal qualities like Be a Leader, Be a Good Listener, Be Persuasive, Be Responsible and Kind, Be Honest and Have Integrity, Be Courageous, Be Self-Aware, Be Wholehearted and... Friendly, Disciplined, Adaptable, Enterprising, Humble, Kind, Optimistic, Tactful, Thoughtful, Analytical, Cautious, Erudite, Grateful, Humorous, Logical, Organized, Poised, Simple, Adventurous, Consistent, Dedicated, Faithful, Hardworking, Polite, Sincere, Affable, Passionate, Practical, Tolerant, Calm, Determined, Patient, Joyful, Stable, Professional, Trustworthy, Willing, Focused, Devoted, Open-minded, Honest, Punctual, Wise, Selfless, Capable

List of negative qualities:

Aggressive, Apathetic Arrogant Boastful Boorish Bossy Callous Careless Caustic Complacent Conceited Conniving Controlling Cowardly Curt Cynical Deceitful Dishonest Disrespectful Egocentric Evil Exacting Fearful Finicky Fussy Garrulous Glum Greedy Grumpy Harried Harsh Haughty Hostile Ignorant Immature Impatient Inconsiderate Indecisive Insensitive Interfering Irresponsible Jealous Killjoy Languid Lazy LaxLoner Malicious Materialistic Mean Miserly Moody Naive Narrow-minded Nasty Obnoxious Obstinate Outspoken Pessimistic Petulant Pompous Possessive Quarrelsome Quixotic Rambunctious Rebellious Resentful Rigid Rude Sarcastic Scornful Selfish Spiteful Stingy Stubborn Superficial Taciturn Thoughtless Touchy Uncouth Ungrateful Unreliable Unscrupulous Untidy Vain Vengeful Vulgar Wicked

4. Question List

  1. - Name? -Age? -Where are you from?
  2. - Tell us about yourself.
  3. - What You can say about Your personal traits.
  4. - Can You say difficult to introduce yourself to other people.
  5. You have a tendency to procrastinate until there is not enough time to do everything.
  6. You find it easy to stay relaxed and focused even when there is some pressure.
  7. You do not usually initiate conversations.
  8. You rarely do something just out of sheer curiosity.
  9. You feel superior to other people.
  10. Being organized is more important to you than being adaptable.
  11. You are usually highly motivated and energetic.
  12. You often feel as if you have to justify yourself to other people
  13. Your work environments are quite tidy.
  14. You do not mind being at the center of attention.
  15. You consider yourself more practical than creative.
  16. People can rarely upset you.
  17. It is often difficult for you to relate to other people’s feelings.
  18. Your mood can change very quickly.
  19. In a discussion, truth should be more important than people’s sensitivities.
  20. You rarely worry about how your actions affect other people.
  21. Your work style is closer to random energy spikes than to a methodical and organized approach.
  22. - Can You say that You envious of others?
  23. An interesting book or a video game is often better than a social event.
  24. Being able to develop a plan and stick to it is the most important part of every project.
  25. You rarely get carried away by fantasies and ideas.
  26. You often find yourself lost in thought when you are walking in nature.
  27. You do not let other people influence your actions.
  28. Your dreams tend to focus on the real world and its events.
  29. It does not take you much time to start getting involved in activities at your workplace.
  30. Your emotions control you more than you control them.
  31. You would rather improvise than spend time coming up with a detailed plan.
  32. You are a relatively reserved and quiet person.
  33. Logic is usually more important than heart when it comes to making important decisions.
  34. Keeping your options open is more important than having a to-do list.
  35. If your friend is sad about something, you are more likely to offer emotional support than suggest ways to deal with the problem.
  36. You have no difficulties coming up with a personal timetable and sticking to it.
  37. Being right is more important than being cooperative when it comes to teamwork.
  38. You think that everyone’s views should be respected regardless of whether they are supported by facts or not.
  39. Your mind is always buzzing with unexplored ideas and plans.
  40. You would not call yourself a dreamer.
  41. You usually find it difficult to relax when talking in front of many people.
  42. Generally speaking, you rely more on your experience than your imagination.
  43. You worry too much about what other people think.

  44. Situation when you are on interview

  45. - Why do you want this job?
  46. - Why should we hire you?
  47. - What are your strengths?
  48. - What are your weaknesses?
  49. - What are your weak and strong aspects?
  50. - What are your merits and demerits?
  51. - Do you want to relocate? Are you willing to relocate?
  52. - Do you have any questions for me?
  53. - What is your job experience?
  54. - Why did your leave your previous job?
  55. - What is your level of English?
  56. - What is your communication skills?
  57. - What do you know about this industry?
  58. - What do you knoe about this company?
  59. - What were the responsibilities of your last position?
  60. - Why are you leaving your present job?
  61. - What is your ideal company?
  62. - What attracted you to this company?
  63. - What did you like least about your last job?
  64. - When were you most satisfied in your job?
  65. - What can you do for us that other candidates can't?
  66. - Where would you like to be in your career five years from now?

5. Useful link

  1. What is Personality?
  2. Uxmatters.com
  3. Computer Programmer Job Description and Salary Information
  4. Examples of Personality Traits